Being a writer has been a dream of mine for a very long time and now that I am writing, and have my own website, it’s like a dream come true.
However, I only had a grade eight education. The spelling isn’t great and the grammar drives my poor Tinkerbell (Editor and Best Friend) mental!
So calling myself a writer, just doesn’t sit well with me.
Now if you have been following my story, you will have read that my story is no better, no worse than yours. (Editor’s Note: “Dee thinks this to be true, but we know better.”)
We all have our struggles and mountains to climb…but my story is just that ‘My Story‘. It’s a horrible story. It’s a story of sexual violence against women and children, but it is a passion of mine to share my story, to stand up and to reach out. To tell my story and hope in some small way, my story may reach you and encourage you to stand up, be counted, and to be brave and help in whatever way any of us can to stop this shocking cruelty.
Now in the setting up of my website, there came a few big decisions and questions.
- The first being ‘Personal Branding’. What was my brand?
- What did I want the world to know about me?
- How would I tell my story?
- How on earth do I write the horrible things that have been done to me, in the most truthful, but respectful manner?
- How do I share my story with people I don’t know and yet have hidden all the shocking truths for 50 years behind ‘My Big Fat Lies‘?
I originally was going to have my logo as an old carpet bag, with stuff spewing out of it everywhere. However, the longer I thought about it, it didn’t represent who I am and the reason for doing the website.
The carpet bag felt like I would be dragging around this pile of crap forever and I really just wanted to pull all the crap out and expose its darkness and use it in a positive way. Hopefully by doing that it will give someone else the courage to speak up.
I wanted to tell the story of my broken heart, my damaged heart, my shattered heart…but most of all, my still beating heart…and my stories come from the heart. They take blood, guts and determination to tell, but my heart is at the centre of me and it is still pumping and it still has love in it.
So now when I look at my pink heart logo, and MY BIG FAT LIE boldly across it, I think of love. I think of how that heart has taken so much hurt and how beautiful it is in the branding of me.
Women and girls always have and always will be the centre of our worlds. We have to do everything within our power, to stop this senseless violence, to protect them, to make our families safe. It’s more than time to embrace our hearts and all our inner strength and to stand up and be strong for those who can’t stand up for themselves.
So I branded myself with a heart and I hope that my heart will touch yours and together we can make a difference.
Be kind to yourself,
Love Big Fat Dee
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