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<\/p>\nMy Thoughts.<\/p>\n
I am the type of person who hates to upset anyone. I have no trouble apologizing. In fact, I know that if I apologize to someone it wont make me faint, my right arm won’t fall off, it means that I have listened, and I acknowledge that I have done or said the wrong thing. There is no excuse or anyone else to blame…but me.<\/p>\n
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Now some people would call me weak and\/or a door mat. They would see this as an act of defeat, but for me apologizing is an act of kindness and love. It shows that I want and respect the relationship I have with this person, and that I want them to know that they have been heard and they are appreciated.<\/p>\n
However in my life I have certainly come across the dead opposite of myself, and that creature is known as the \u201cNon Apologist\u201d, we all have them in our lives, and I see you with a grin on your face, you can see yours in the back of your mind, in all of their glory, for they are never wrong.<\/p>\n
Now its not to say that Non Apologist, doesn’t try to apologize, but they say it with the ‘get out’ clause attached. \u201c Im sorry BUT…<\/p>\n
Now you and I are more than happy to apologize and we feel guilt at the thought of upsetting any of our nearest and dearest. The Non Apologist, they feel shame and shame is a much bigger pill to swallow than guilt.<\/p>\n
The Non Apologist feels they are not wrong and it is hard for them to admit they were in the wrong in any way shape or form, that it couldn’t be their fault. Excuses start, such as somebody gave them the wrong information, or someone else told them a lie which started all this upset in the first place.<\/p>\n
They feel that if they show this weakness and apolgize just this once, then the gates of human emotion will open up and their long list of wrong doings will come back to haunt them, just like the ghost of Christmas past.<\/p>\n
Showing emotion to a Non Apologist is like talking in a foreign language. They will stare at you and the lights are on but nobody is home. They will defend themselves and blame everyone else as that is the name of their game.<\/p>\n
I have spent many hours trying to build honest and loving relationships with Non Apologists and let me tell you, they never change and all you do is end up being stressed out, feeling like the great unloved.<\/p>\n
I send this little gem of wisdom that was passed onto me not so long ago, by someone who has been dealing with a Non Apologist all their life. Speak to them, only when they speak to you, in one word answers, and just like a good Disney Princess, LET THEM GO!!!!!!!<\/p>\n
Be kind to yourself,<\/p>\n
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